Is this Taurus man playing me or he is just testing me?

Question

I am on an LDR relationship with my Taurus man. I met him on a forum and he tried to helped on my tech problem before. After that we kept in touch although our communication is weeks and sometimes months apart. He is working in Japan as a salaryman and he explained to me before how work culture differs there. We are running for 3 years now and I have never met him personally. I have never seen him on live cam as he said his camera is broken. He said he does not have facebook and other social media. All these after 3 years until now. My friends say I am stupid to trust him. He sent me pictures and that's all. Some say he could be a catfish. I can never understand why I trust him so but I know I love him.I went to Japan before but we never met. He said he was busy at work and was somewhere else. I know these are all excuses. I love myself and I feel like I have been too kind and stupid inlove with him to even stay in the relationship. I broke up with him before though and he thought I was cheating with him. After finding out I was really loyal to him, he asked that we get back together. He always promised to visit me but it never happened. He said he is saving money for the future. I don't know if I can do this for 5 years knowing when we meet there is no chemistry. I have never been so inlove with someone like this though. I had 3 relationships before him (5 years, 2 years, and 8 years) but I have never love them the way I love this Taurus guy. What should i do? :( Help

Answer 1

A tech guy with a broken cam for 3 years is really suspicious don't you think? If he really cared he would fix it.

Answer 2

LDR is not a relationship. Since 90% of what we relate can only be grasped when we are with the person face-to-face, there is no real relating going on across a distance.

Therefore, since there is no real relating, there is actually NOT a relationship.

90% of what you think about this person is your own fill-in-the-blanks fantasy and delusion, and you are making the mistake of believing it to be real.



As for testing .. few people "test" others. If you value someone you do NOT risk losing them by doing things that might drive them away. Only screwed-up judgmental coldhearted people will "test" others.

So if he IS testing you .. run away from him as fast as you can.



Usually what we THINK is testing is not testing.

The person truly doesn't care ... but since we don't want to face that reality, we rationalize and feed ourselves the lie that they "must be just testing" us.



Believe NOTHING that has not been gained face-to-face.

There are predators ... psycho's even .. who prey on gullible people and end up hurting them in very real ways .. blackmail ... stalking ... betrayal ... even murder.



He is not on FB. Uh-huh.



If he is NOT a psycho predator, or playing you .. most likely he is married or has a girlfriend and just uses you for fantasy when his real life gets too boring. Betcha his girl found our about your communications and THAT I why he HAD to "break up" with you. But then he discovered a new way to keep his cheating a secret from his girl.



Honey ... never waste time with online "relationships".

Use online ONLY long enough to communicate a few times and THEN say ... "OK .. time to meet in person at a public place".

And if they don't live in your city, don't bother.

If they won't meet with you in person, don't bother.

If the don't let you into their electronic life (FB, etc) don't bother.

If you cannot confirm where they work or that no female shares their living space .. don't bother.

His webcam is broken. Uh-huh.

He works in Japan. Says who?

He sends you a picture. Since you have never met him, how do you know it is a picture of HIM? Betcha he did not send up a picture of an ugly man.

Answer 3

lol tech guy .. and no webcam. Even if he did have one. LOL. Long distance relationships are a joke. I have never met a couple in a long distance relationship that worked. Either the girl or guy is a cheater, is married, or is too embarrassed to show themselves because they don't like the way they look.



I had a long distance relationship... did some research.. the guy was married. His wife picked up the phone and ***** screamed at me. His excuse was... "that's my sister." and he HAD A WEBCAM. lol...



woman move on.. keep him as a friend.. don't get so attached to someone you can't touch and feel on a daily basis.

Answer 4

Move on. Stop wasting time on a dude who actions speak louder than words.