Aquarius disappearing act!?

Question

Why do aquarius like to do the disappearing act when emotions get too crazy between them and someone they care about. I have been friends with this aquarius guy for 4 years and we have gotten really close during the that time. We have talked about being together and he asked to date me but it sounded like he was just asking to make me happy andvthen told me he didnt want to because hed be a bad boyfriend. Weve gotten into arguments before about us being together and him flirting with other girls but this has been the longest fight. I apologized for my actions of pushing myself on him but he never responded. I havent contacted him since because I want to give him space and wait for him to contact me. But its been a month and I wanted to get an opinion on how long I should wait toncontact him? Or how much longer should I wait for him to contact me before I should move on?
Thanknunso much :)

Answer 1

Aquarius does not like to deal with emotions. They aren't emotional, they don't know how to deal with it, it just looks like drama to them. You should have tried logically explaining/communicating the issues. You can't just tell them "I feel (lonely, out of place, neglected, misunderstood, blah blah blah) anything that starts with I feel to them is completely subjective. They will eventually become the victim (distancing themselves and saying you were being too emotional/sensitive/crazy) saying they didn't deserve it or whatever. They will not address the issue at that point, since they are fixed, if anyone is going to bend it will have to be you. Which means saying they were the real victim and just sweeping the issue under the carpet.

If you really want him to change/understand what is going on you have to tell him like it's a problem (non emotional). They will be more than happy to communicate/fix the issue logically. Make sure they know it's personal. They don't like to take things too seriously so if you just bring up the issue and they don't know why or where you're coming from it will seem random and they will answer as if it is just a random question not directed toward them. Then when they give you an answer you do not like, they will say you were taking things too seriously. it's all just one big misunderstanding. Both are to blame.



So if you Aquarius disappeared he's just ignoring you. he doesn't want to deal with the situation. Stop bothering him. They prefer independence...and they hate clingy people. If it has been longer than a month he has moved on. He does not want to pursue the relationship at this time. Maybe he will pop up randomly later on, acting as though nothing happened. If you bring up the past issue he will leave for good. I would just play it cool. You already apologized. Chances are if the issue was about him flirting with other girls, and you wanted to be together more or just have him cut it out...it's not going to happen. He wants what he wants. And for the time being that is not you. That's why he was flirting. Doesn't matter how great the relationship was before. Even if he's wrong he'll resent you question him. He'll look at it like, "afterrall i'm my own person and i can make my own decisions" he feels like you were controlling.

Answer 2

The same thing kinda happened to me. I dated an Aquarius for 6 months, things were okay but I was never truly happy with our relationship because I was the one compromising to his ways, his thoughts, when he fetl like it etc…. . One night he was about to express how he truly feels for me and stopped himself and said ‘im just protecting myself”. The following morning he became verbally mean and insulting. I felt like he had issues within himself that he was struggling with and took them out on me. Im a LEO, he is my polar opposite. We deal with everything in such different ways. Me being vocal and he being distant. He had taken a few days off here and there and I understood but got fed up in the end. I basically told him I needed to withdraw myself as he was deeply hurting my everything and told him when and if he is ready, he can come back and explain to me some of these things 9i know he never will) All I got was the typical “I just want to be alone for now”. I have learned with Aquarius men, u need to keep shut, not express your emotions and leave them be. And you should NOT constantly text, call or anything and just leave them alone. So you either raise your tolerance to their way, or you can leave. I raised mine to levels I never thought I could, but if I can’t be who I truly am, then weather Aquarius or any other sign/man then you need to be with someone more compatible to you. They are very different and definitely stand out of all the zodiacs. I find them in their own world and own thoughts. They are truly unique in such a peculiar way. I accepted a lot of his weirdness but when it came time to express my hurt and pain, he just cut me off and ignored. When I saw for a few weeks he wasn’t responding…. I completely stopped. Silence. It hurts, this is def a kind of man that will not own up to their faults and allow enough time to pass by so you do not have to speak about it. I would leave him be, if he comes back it is up to you but always remember… he will do this again.

Answer 3

Well, speaking as an aquarian female, I do distance myself when I feel too much emotion. We don't know how to deal w/feelings all that well. I believe he asked to date you because he truly wanted to. We don't make commitments to someone unless we have dissected them inside & out. This includes observing your behaviors. We don't set ourselves up for failure, we carefully select who we give our heart to. He probably took back the dating question because he feels he will not be able to please your requirements, therefore making him a bad boyfriend for u. We don't like to feel restricted or tied down in any way & u getting mad at him for flirting w/other girls set up a red flag for him. It may have been friendly flirting where he doesn't see it as a problem because he shows his love for u by remaining faithful. Does that make sense to you? Give him time and space to sort out his thoughts. Aquarians live in their heads, this is also our means of handling our feelings because our mind is detached from our emotions. We don't act impulsively on feelings, rather, we rationalize w/our brains. Do not overwhelm him w/an abundance of phone calls or texts while he is going thru his distance phase either, this will only annoy us & drive us further away, making it more time until we do come back. Do not act needy or clingy. We hate that.



Ok, its been a month? Aquarians have this 'out of sight, out of mind' thing in our heads. I think you should def. contact him.

Answer 4

Aquarius have no hearts.