Problem with Cancer man.?

Question

Me
Leo woman
rising Gemini.
Cancer moon

My husband
Cancer man
rising Virgo
Capricorn moon



In the beginning of our relationship, we got along great. We seemed strong and unshakable despite what hardships came our way. But lately things have settled down. My husband seems to never want to leave the house and I've become (as bad as it sounds) terribly bored with our sedentary lifestyle. We go to a restaurant, and he complains so much about the price of the menu we end up leaving and picking up McDonalds on our way home. Its impossible for me to work because he's in the court system and has no drivers licence after several incidents after the passing of his mother, so I'm stuck taking him to work as well as all his court appointments. Thus, my life consists of sitting in my house and waiting for him to get off work so that we can rush to see the courts. I feel I never get out of my house and I've lost my zest for life. My husband seems ok with this as he is in a perfectly comfortable environment. He doesn't even seem to realize or care how sad I am. He's comfortable and thats all that matters. He shuns my creativity as "petty" and my dreaming as "improbable". The sex feels almost beurocratic, and everything comes with strings attached. He complains about my temper, and refuses to fix anything until I fix it, but my temper is a direct result of my boredom and depression in this relationship. I've threatened to leave a few times, and he always plays pity party. He says things lie "Yeah, I'm so horrible to you. At least I don't beat on you lie your last boyfriend" or "You're going to leave me all alone. I guess I'll just go pay the rest of my fines off by rotting in jail". Because I don't want him to go to jail and he makes me feel bad for wanting to leave, I end up staying. I keep hoping life will go back to the way it was. He's not a bad guy, but I'm beginning to debate if he's the right guy. Is this relationship a lost cause from an astrological point of view?

Answer 1

With a Gemini ascendant there's no way you'll ever like to be penned in at home, you must get out and about otherwise, well you already know what problems this can cause. This is something you "have" to get sorted and quick. There's always an answer to things, you just haven't found it yet.

You have an inner need to communicate to the world, to get out and about. You'll also suspect the grass is greener somewhere else, this is a trait of a Sagittarius descendant.

Your husband sees the world as a place to serve and organise. He idealises and romanticises, wanting to merge with another and become one, (Pisces descendant).

You can be moody as well, with a Cancer Moon, this makes it even more important for you to get out and about, if you're in the home too much, your moods will increase, (the Moon rules your home-life). If Jupiter is aspecting any of these "planets", this will expand everything, for the worse if it's harsh aspects but if it's a good aspect, it should bring optimism.

It's not a lost cause astrologically, with thi info' you've given, nothing much can be said, you need to see the whole charts and then do comparisons, even then it's likely to be dubious. I don't think astrology is good for compatibility but it can point to where things are coming from perhaps. His Lunar Nodes should suggest ways he has to develop to bring some sort of karma to his life.

Answer 2

umm, this sounds like a divorce is about to happen soon? or.....maybe have a kid or something, eventually he'll take the kids and u out for fun or something...

Answer 3

the boring cancer crab is bringing down the adventurous leo lion!

don't waste your time with him please. you will die unhappy.

cancers are a handful!